I once called a 3 year old honey ("honey would you like a popsicle?") She gently and firmly turned to me and said "Please don't call me honey. I really don't like that."

"Oh, ok," I responded. "What would you like to be called. "

"I'd like to be called Alicia, that's my name."

Let's act like 3 year olds and say with directness but kindness what we desire. Out of the mouth of babes